Dancing In The Clouds
If you havenít seen it yet, run donít walk (or better yet dance) to see La La Land. Itís a salve for the modern soul. And Lord knows we could use that these days.
On the surface, itís the story of an aspiring young actress and a struggling jazz musician as they meet and fall in love in modern day Los Angeles. One filmmakerís tribute to the classic musicals of Hollywoodís golden age.
For my money at least, itís a love story to life.
Youíve heard the story before, hundreds of times, only the characters and settings ever really change.
Boy meets girl.
They hate each other.
But really they love each other.
They realize they are in love.
All goes well.
Until it doesnít.
Something happens to keep them apart.
Until love wins out.
Itís the story of every musical and every romantic comedy ever filmed. But the reason it works every time, the reason we watch it over and over again, is that itís really the story of our lives. Our journey from birth to death. From self-realization to self-actualization.
If your eyes are glazing over, hang with me. This story has a happy ending as well.
In 1943 Abraham Maslow stated that people are all motivated to fulfill certain needs. Some needs take precedence over others. These are our basic needs. Until these basic needs are satisfied, we arenít able to fulfill our higher needs. This is illustrated in the chart below.
The lower level needs are sometimes referred to as deficiency needs. In other words, they motivate people when they are unmet. And the longer they are unmet, the stronger the need becomes. Just try going a day without food and see what becomes of your mental state. However, once the deficiency goes away, the need goes away. Then you can move on to higher level desires.
The highest level of needs are growth needs. Growth needs are different. They actually become stronger as they are met.
At the top of the pyramid we become fully-functioning human beings. We realize our full potential. In 1970 Maslow listed the characteristics of a self-actualized human being. That list includes:
Perceive reality efficiently and can tolerate uncertainty
Accept themselves and others for what they are
Spontaneous in thought and action
Problem-centered (not self-centered)
Able to look at life objectively
Concerned for the welfare of humanity
Capable of deep appreciation of basic life-experience
Establish deep satisfying interpersonal relationships with a few people
Strong moral/ethical standards.
In short, complete awesomeness.
Self-actualized people are able to look beyond themselves and help others achieve self-actualization.
Felling a bit inferior at this point? Donít worry.
Maslow estimated that only 2% of people ever become fully self-actualized.
So, speaking of musicals (and at one point we actually were), thereís a classic scene in the 1965 movie The Sound of Music. Weíve all seen it. Maria (Julie Andrews) is on a mountaintop in the Austrian Alps twirling and dancing and singing that ďthe hills are alive with the sound of music.Ē
If only for a few moments, Maria reaches self-actualization.
A Peak Experience
Complete joy, complete happiness, complete freedom.
Or is it?
I would argue not. Just as there are different levels of needs, there are different levels of freedom. What if running, skipping, dancing and singing across a mountaintop is an illustration of only the most basic type of freedom? A deficient freedom. A freedom from something.
Now, that isnít to take away from Mariaís freedom. Itís a freedom we crave. Itís a freedom we need. Butís only the first step.
Complete freedom, transcendent freedom isnít found on the ground at all. Itís found in the air.
Transcendent freedom is flight. Unbound by even gravity.
Basic freedom is defined by our circumstances. We are free when we can go where we want and do what we want. When no one or no thing can stop us. We control our own destiny.
Ever met a teenager? They want basic freedom. And with it they learn to test themselves and their limitations. They start to see what they are capable of.
Basic freedom does not and cannot bring happiness however. Because basic freedom is defined by what we are free from. Once we attain that freedom, then what? Once we have that freedom we see that it isnít really freedom at all. Because once the restraint is removed, the very definition of freedom goes away.
We are free, but we are empty.
Complete freedom, transcendent freedom is a freedom for something. Itís a freedom that allows us to reach higher than we ever though possible. A freedom that allows us to become people that we never though possible. To go places weíve never dreamed of.
We are free and we are fulfilled.
Ironically, this transcendent freedom is rarely something we can obtain ourselves. We need help. To use our earlier metaphor, we need a plane in order to fly. And we need lessons to fly that plane. When we fully and completely give ourselves to another, then we can leave the ground.
Perhaps this is what the Apostle Paul means when he speaks of becoming slaves to Christ so that we might be free?
Could it be that willingly giving yourself fully to someone or something is the pathway to true freedom?
Do you have someone in your life that is teaching you how to fly? Someone who doesnít hold you back, but lifts you up? Are you the engine for someone elseís freedom?
Or are you stuck on the ground? Does taking care of the basic needs of life require all your energy right now? Self-actualization? Hell, Iím just trying to get out of bed in the morning. And pay my bills. And heal my broken heart. And find some sort of purpose in the world. Flight? Transcendent freedom? Iím just trying to breathe.
A lesson from movie musicals is that all goes wellÖuntil it doesnít.
But if you are reading this post right now, it means you are a living, breathing human being. Your movie isnít finished.
The end of your story is not written yet.
And maybe, just maybe, there is something better ahead. A freedom youíve never known. A time when all your needs are met. A person to fly with. A place to reach your full potential. A song. Your song. A dance in the clouds.
A happy ending.
May you breathe until you can sing. Walk until you can run. And dance until you can fly. Amen.